I often find myself popping over to film some short extracts of the groom and groom’s party getting ready. It’s often a relaxed affair where suits are being donned, drinks are flowing and jokes are being shared… however, a little unassuming element is often sat waiting to cause all sorts of mayhem: the buttonhole flower. This seemingly minor detail often causes a surprising amount of confusion among grooms! However, fret not, with the following guidance, you will undoubtedly become a boutonniere aficionado!
Now, you might think, “Well, it’s just a flower, how hard can it be?” Let me tell you, I’ve witnessed more buttonhole-related confusion than you might think. Don’t worry, though, take these 3 steps to become a buttonhole boss!
Step 1: the buttonhole goes on the left lapel
First things first, let’s address the elephant in the room (or should I say, the flower on the lapel?). The groom’s buttonhole goes on the left lapel. Not the right. This isn’t just some random rule, it’s to do with tradition! Now, some might joke that the left placement is a subtle nod to the fact that your partner is always right (wink wink), but that’s a story for another time. Your florist will know more about the lineage and could be a good ice breaker discussion! Thank me later.
Step 2: place it just above your heart
Now, onto the placement. Forget that little stitched slit on your jacket (that’s a decoy, my friend!). Most people forget or can’t unstitch this and that’s fine. I was told once that traditionally the stem is pushed through that to help fix it at the back more, but it might tickle your ear! I prefer the aesthetic of the buttonhole flower being a tad lower, right above your heart. Picture it as a little symbol of your love blossoming right there!
Step 3: practice makes perfect
Here’s the key to avoiding any last-minute fumbling: ask your groomsmen to do a trial run with the flowers before the big day. Trust me, it’ll save you some serious stress and those pre-wedding jitters.
And aye, if all else fails, don’t worry! That’s what your awesome wedding videographer is here for. I’ve got a keen eye for detail (and a steady hand for flower placement in a pinch).
But let’s be honest, wouldn’t you rather look effortlessly dapper on your wedding day, and have me capture all those hours of practice? So there you have it, future grooms! With a little practice and this handy guide, you’ll be rocking that buttonhole like a champ. Now go forth and conquer your wedding day, one perfectly placed flower at a time!
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